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perzephone) wrote2008-06-17 11:55 am
perzephone) wrote2008-06-17 11:55 am
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By Request - My Real Life Friends
Moonvoice asked why I don't talk about my IRL friends...
I don't really have any. All my friends are long-distance friends, exceptspyral_weaver73. We both live here in Vegas but it's been years since I've seen her.
I don't make friends easily and I don't tend the relationships. I am a bad friend. I never call anyone, I don't go out of my way to visit people... I send birthday cards and the occasional gift via amazon.com. I e-mail people. It's pretty much all my fault that I don't have IRL friends, but I am also anti-social, reclusive and a workaholic, and I don't think I ever feel a deep-seated need to have friends. I don't get lonely, and when I do it's usually just wanting to get laid. I spend more time wishing I was more alone.
Lisa, aka Spyral
I've known since I was in the 9th grade & I think she was in 10th. She is exactly 5 months and 23 days older than I am, lol. We both attended high school out here & I wore a Def Leppard t-shirt within the first week of school & she tackled me. Lisa is and always has been very outgoing, vivacious and loving. She's usually smiling and has a great personality and a good sense of humor (and I'm not just saying that cause she reads my blog, either). We would hang out in the 'quad' area of the high school, she had some cool friends & I just sort of hung around with them. I went to school drunk quite a bit & Lisa was always there smoothing my clothes & buttoning my shirt. I lived w/my oldest sister & her two kids & Lisa would come over & spend the night every once in awhile. The first time I met her mom I was terrified of the woman, but Lisa & her brother seemed to have the most normal family of anyone I knew at the time. Lisa's brother has fallen on some very hard times, but when I was 14 I was completely in love w/him. I moved out of state & Lisa & I wrote one another for awhile, but that kind of fell by the wayside. I moved back out here when I was 16 or so and ran into her again at her first handfasting ceremony. We were in Wicca classes together, she was also studying Norse-centric Wicca. It was kind of funny because she's black & I'm white, but she was more interested in Nordic spirituality and I was studying Santeria & Vodou. When she had her second handfasting a few years later, and started having kids, that was kind of when I started drifting away. She's got 6 kids now, and she's a good mom. She's also been trying to get her crafting business going - she makes beaded jewelry and handcrafts, she's also been through massage school. We worked together for an adult entertainment service for awhile & that was great fun (it was just phone sex, so nobody get any pervy ideas there). She's intelligent and down-to-earth, but I just can't be around little kids. Plus, there's always been some tension between her & my husband, but he creates tension wherever he goes. And unfortunately, everywhere I go, he goes.
Ann, aka The Rat, aka The Hula Rat.
When I lived w/my cousin Penny, I spent my summers at the Glendora Library. I met Ann in the children's section - she was basically a library aide, shelving books, helping people find things, light administrative duties... (the children's librarian was this royal bitch named Margaret - I dun think I'll ever forget her. She was just nasty. Nasty to Ann, when I started volunteering she was nasty to me... why she decided to be a children's librarian I'll never know). Anyway... Ann was probably the first Goth person I'd ever met, always dressed in black, dark eye makeup, retro New Wave hair-dos. She was also the coolest person I'd met up to that point. I idolized her then and she still knocks my socks off. She's a writer and a professional student, even though I believe she finally got that last Masters Degree she was working on. She had a car and was probably my only escape from Penny's house other than school and the library itself. She'd take me out for frozen yogurt, and she also had a completely normal household - mom, dad, brother (he's a bit of an ass, a comic illustrator and I'll always think of him as just this blonde Californian college guy even though he's on the downside of middle-aged), dog. I spent the fourth of July over there a couple times watching <i>The Twilight Zone</i> marathon. Ann introduced me to New Wave & punk music, the coolest places in Hollywood and L.A. to go curio shopping, she encouraged me to write - she published this desk-top kind of 'zine called <i>Dashboard Mary</i>, she's a great photographer, too. After I moved from Penny's to my aunt & uncle's home in Tennessee, we wrote one another regularly - she also had to put up w/my aunt calling her & telling her she thought Ann was corrupting me & our relationship was innapropriate. I think she got that shit from Penny, too. When I came back out to Vegas she came out to visit during a friend's wedding when I was 17 or so. We kept trying to keep the pen-pal thing going, but it dropped to maybe 4 letters a year, then 2... tried sending each other care packages, but now it's the occasional e-mail & Chrisma/Birfday greetings.
Eric
Ah, Eric. My sister Jody started working w/Eric at the costume photography shop when the Excalibur first opened, back in '91. She arranged a pen-pal relationship between he & I while I was living in Washington, and when I came back out here we hung out. A lot. He had all his d.j. equipment set up in his parent's garage & was just as cool as Ann as far as music & hobbies went. He knew all the weird things to go see here in Vegas, like a tree that looked like someone was stuck under the bark. Eric is also a humongous Prince fan - I tried to hook Lisa & Eric up one night to celebrate mutual Prince worship. I kept telling her that the Japanese tourists thought Eric was a Michael Jackson impersonator, but she didn't quite get that he's black, so she calls me back & proceeds to tell me that she doesn't dig black guys. It was fucking hilarious. Eric & I were fuck buddies, and our usual evenings were spent getting drunk & having rough sex everywhere, but sometimes he'd just drive around running errands & I'd tag along. We spent a lot of time at the outdoor swap meet & second-hand shops and indy music places that aren't even open anymore. I went to work for him at a costume photo shop in the Casino Royale for awhile - he was dating a Korean girl named Jennifer. She had a fucked-up home life, but they eventually moved to Minnesota together & had a baby that didn't make it. She moved back to Vegas to be w/her family & Eric bought a house that's like, a half a mile from Prince's house. (He gets to go to parties over there every once in awhile when Prince has an 'open house'. Bastard). Last I heard he was working for the Red Cross, he started off as a phlebotomist & I think now he's a regional manager, and he d.j.s on the side. He also comes out here every year for the bartender convention, but I'm always working, so I never get to go out w/him & my sister. We e-mail each other very rarely.
I have no idea why all three of the people I count as friends stuck around as long as they did. I do know some amazingly talented, artistic and creative people though, and the random contact I have with them usually brightens my day.
I don't really have any. All my friends are long-distance friends, except
spyral_weaver73. We both live here in Vegas but it's been years since I've seen her. I don't make friends easily and I don't tend the relationships. I am a bad friend. I never call anyone, I don't go out of my way to visit people... I send birthday cards and the occasional gift via amazon.com. I e-mail people. It's pretty much all my fault that I don't have IRL friends, but I am also anti-social, reclusive and a workaholic, and I don't think I ever feel a deep-seated need to have friends. I don't get lonely, and when I do it's usually just wanting to get laid. I spend more time wishing I was more alone.
Lisa, aka Spyral
I've known since I was in the 9th grade & I think she was in 10th. She is exactly 5 months and 23 days older than I am, lol. We both attended high school out here & I wore a Def Leppard t-shirt within the first week of school & she tackled me. Lisa is and always has been very outgoing, vivacious and loving. She's usually smiling and has a great personality and a good sense of humor (and I'm not just saying that cause she reads my blog, either). We would hang out in the 'quad' area of the high school, she had some cool friends & I just sort of hung around with them. I went to school drunk quite a bit & Lisa was always there smoothing my clothes & buttoning my shirt. I lived w/my oldest sister & her two kids & Lisa would come over & spend the night every once in awhile. The first time I met her mom I was terrified of the woman, but Lisa & her brother seemed to have the most normal family of anyone I knew at the time. Lisa's brother has fallen on some very hard times, but when I was 14 I was completely in love w/him. I moved out of state & Lisa & I wrote one another for awhile, but that kind of fell by the wayside. I moved back out here when I was 16 or so and ran into her again at her first handfasting ceremony. We were in Wicca classes together, she was also studying Norse-centric Wicca. It was kind of funny because she's black & I'm white, but she was more interested in Nordic spirituality and I was studying Santeria & Vodou. When she had her second handfasting a few years later, and started having kids, that was kind of when I started drifting away. She's got 6 kids now, and she's a good mom. She's also been trying to get her crafting business going - she makes beaded jewelry and handcrafts, she's also been through massage school. We worked together for an adult entertainment service for awhile & that was great fun (it was just phone sex, so nobody get any pervy ideas there). She's intelligent and down-to-earth, but I just can't be around little kids. Plus, there's always been some tension between her & my husband, but he creates tension wherever he goes. And unfortunately, everywhere I go, he goes.
Ann, aka The Rat, aka The Hula Rat.
When I lived w/my cousin Penny, I spent my summers at the Glendora Library. I met Ann in the children's section - she was basically a library aide, shelving books, helping people find things, light administrative duties... (the children's librarian was this royal bitch named Margaret - I dun think I'll ever forget her. She was just nasty. Nasty to Ann, when I started volunteering she was nasty to me... why she decided to be a children's librarian I'll never know). Anyway... Ann was probably the first Goth person I'd ever met, always dressed in black, dark eye makeup, retro New Wave hair-dos. She was also the coolest person I'd met up to that point. I idolized her then and she still knocks my socks off. She's a writer and a professional student, even though I believe she finally got that last Masters Degree she was working on. She had a car and was probably my only escape from Penny's house other than school and the library itself. She'd take me out for frozen yogurt, and she also had a completely normal household - mom, dad, brother (he's a bit of an ass, a comic illustrator and I'll always think of him as just this blonde Californian college guy even though he's on the downside of middle-aged), dog. I spent the fourth of July over there a couple times watching <i>The Twilight Zone</i> marathon. Ann introduced me to New Wave & punk music, the coolest places in Hollywood and L.A. to go curio shopping, she encouraged me to write - she published this desk-top kind of 'zine called <i>Dashboard Mary</i>, she's a great photographer, too. After I moved from Penny's to my aunt & uncle's home in Tennessee, we wrote one another regularly - she also had to put up w/my aunt calling her & telling her she thought Ann was corrupting me & our relationship was innapropriate. I think she got that shit from Penny, too. When I came back out to Vegas she came out to visit during a friend's wedding when I was 17 or so. We kept trying to keep the pen-pal thing going, but it dropped to maybe 4 letters a year, then 2... tried sending each other care packages, but now it's the occasional e-mail & Chrisma/Birfday greetings.
Eric
Ah, Eric. My sister Jody started working w/Eric at the costume photography shop when the Excalibur first opened, back in '91. She arranged a pen-pal relationship between he & I while I was living in Washington, and when I came back out here we hung out. A lot. He had all his d.j. equipment set up in his parent's garage & was just as cool as Ann as far as music & hobbies went. He knew all the weird things to go see here in Vegas, like a tree that looked like someone was stuck under the bark. Eric is also a humongous Prince fan - I tried to hook Lisa & Eric up one night to celebrate mutual Prince worship. I kept telling her that the Japanese tourists thought Eric was a Michael Jackson impersonator, but she didn't quite get that he's black, so she calls me back & proceeds to tell me that she doesn't dig black guys. It was fucking hilarious. Eric & I were fuck buddies, and our usual evenings were spent getting drunk & having rough sex everywhere, but sometimes he'd just drive around running errands & I'd tag along. We spent a lot of time at the outdoor swap meet & second-hand shops and indy music places that aren't even open anymore. I went to work for him at a costume photo shop in the Casino Royale for awhile - he was dating a Korean girl named Jennifer. She had a fucked-up home life, but they eventually moved to Minnesota together & had a baby that didn't make it. She moved back to Vegas to be w/her family & Eric bought a house that's like, a half a mile from Prince's house. (He gets to go to parties over there every once in awhile when Prince has an 'open house'. Bastard). Last I heard he was working for the Red Cross, he started off as a phlebotomist & I think now he's a regional manager, and he d.j.s on the side. He also comes out here every year for the bartender convention, but I'm always working, so I never get to go out w/him & my sister. We e-mail each other very rarely.
I have no idea why all three of the people I count as friends stuck around as long as they did. I do know some amazingly talented, artistic and creative people though, and the random contact I have with them usually brightens my day.
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