Mar. 1st, 2010

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I've been delving a little deeper into the appearance of Bowling Shirt Guy in my dream. Why did I get such an instant attraction to someone I wouldn't normally think I'd be attracted? Why was he in my dream in the first place? Why was he helping me clean out the fridge & wash dishes? Why did he belong to someone else? Because I don't have them often, my dreams are always sacred to me, even if I'm dreaming about housework or my job, so when I do dream - and I do remember the dream - they tend to have an impact on me. I automatically seek the significance because in my world, there is no such thing as 'just a dream'.

I've never had a problem with my own inner masculinity. I was never forced to be girlie when I was a little kid. I was 'daddy's little girl', but instead of being coddled, petted & spoiled, I wanted to be like my dad. I wanted to wear cowboy boots & drive a truck. I had no time for tea parties, Barbie & baby dolls - my world was one of mechanical devices that got taken apart to see what made them work, models, grease, deisel exhaust and rain. I never had the experience of being told that something was beyond my grasp because it was 'for boys'. Jobs, games, toys, hobbies - my parents pretty much let me have free reign over my role in life. The only thing they ever said to me was they hoped I would have a better life than just being a trucker. They would have thought my current position as an LOA would be preferable to life on the open road.

I think, as a result, I've always had a good relationship with my animus. I'm not up on Jungian psychology too much, but I do know a lot of women have dreams of 'dark men', dreams of fear & pursuit. They run from their shadowy masculine sides in dreams, even if they've never been pursued in real life. There is an uneasiness about men, especially strange men. For me, I never had those kinds of dreams. I haven't ever dreamed that I'm running from a half-seen, dark shadow of a man with ill intent. My dreams of pursuit involve monsters, not humans, and I rarely have them. The 'chicken coop' dream, the 'junk yard' dream, the 'Leviathan dream' - those are my dreams of anxiety and fear. I don't fear men in real life, but there is a part of me that knows I am strong enough to defend myself and do someone real damage if pushed into it. In fact, I've sent a couple people to the ER. I rarely worry about my physical safety, so I don't dream about it. I'm comfortable (mostly) with my own inner darkness, too. It doesn't scare me. I know what it could be capable of, and I'm ok with it. I don't fear myself because I know myself and for the most part, I trust myself. I even trust my occasional bouts of the crazies. I may do myself in one of these days when I have one of my crazy times, but, eh.

Anyway, what this boils down to is that it's possible that Bowling Shirt Guy might just be the personification of my animus. He's my masculine qualities and traits in a particularly interesting form. It says a lot about my masculine side if that is who he is (as opposed to being a fantasy wrought from me turning 36 & hitting the fabled sexual peak women are supposed to get at my age). So, if BSG is my animus... my masculine side is a bit outdated, with some old-fashioned ideals, but he prefers to work with his hands and he believes in getting things done. When he punches out for the day, he doesn't want to be nagged at or given more chores - he wants to put his feet up, watch t.v. & have a beer. What I see in him is that he fixes things. If something is broken or is causing complaints, he fixes it. That is definitely me - I hate when people bitch about things and do nothing to solve the problem. I try to fix things that other people are perfectly happy to just bitch about, even if it's something that's not really even my job to fix. He also just wants to get the job done - he doesn't want to stand around yakking about it - which is also me. He also believes that if he asks someone to do something, they should just freaking do it.

I need food - will probably continue this later.

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Mar. 1st, 2010 07:18 pm
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I'm kind of lackadaisical about work right now, which is not my usual attitude. I'm basically waiting til the steady extra post at the Ex opens up again, but I'm not positive enough about it to just quit the County. So I half-ass it at work in the meantime.

Been thinking about this all day. Mainly because the boss was off & I had the spare time. Bowling Shirt Guy, aka BSG, aka Mr Fix-It, as my animus, and the Plague Doctor. I've gained two new allies lately, so I'm wondering how am I supposed to use them?

The Plague Doctor does not feel like any part of my personality personified. He's external, from a time and place I can only imagine. I am unsure of how to communicate with him. Despite his warm human hands, I'm not even sure if he's human under his bird-beaked mask. He smells of wormwood and something lemony, maybe thyme or tarragon, and paraffin used to coat his cloak, with an dusty animal smell, like feathers or old hides. He grumbles, and although I catch the Italian accent, snippets of Latin, it isn't fully articulated words. He coughs. Does he have the plague or TB, or is it the herbs in his mask making him hack like that? Are his hands warm, or are they fevered? He was one of the quacks of his day and age, but he helped relieve my pain. He hangs around, more & more. I sketch him now and then.

Mr. Fix-It is very new, but I think I know why I've met him. I need someone to help me get things done, and I've been unsure and unconfident about getting things done. My brain has sent me 'a real man' to help me out. If I can just get past the OMG SEX DREAMS factor and open a dialogue with him, I might get what I really need - which might be a home-based technical writing business. I've also decided that I am going to try for the cap-and-gown graduation ceremony. Yeah, student loans & the in-laws may have payed for my degree, but damn it, I was the one who took all the classes and passed them. Even the math classes. Especially the math classes. I guess I do have a right to be proud of myself, even if it's just a little, for having the determination to get through these last 5 years. Tomorrow I'm taking off a little early to go talk to a graduation counselor & see if I can make it under the wire for Spring '10.

Grrr

Mar. 1st, 2010 09:27 pm
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Rob pointed out something to me.

The lead singer of TOAD, who is the closest semblance I could think of to BSG, looks like a younger version of Pat Monahan, who is the lead singer of Train. There is much speculation that Pat Monahan is in actuality my soul-mate, which irritates Rob to no end, because even he can't deny that Monahan writes songs about me.

Maybe I am Pat Monahan's anima.

Weirder things have happened. John Cusack is the voice of Rob's conscience, which leads us to believe that John Cusack may be plagued by a devil on his shoulder that looks or sounds like Rob.

/facepalm
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I love the new random dungeon finder, especially for lowbies.

Except...

I fucking hate Maraudon!!!!!

Die, Maraudon, die!!!! Pointy stick stab!!!

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